Body snark is seriously not cool.
I get a lot of requests for my blog. Sometimes people email me stuff, or DM it to me on Twitter, or just message me on Facebook- and I absolutely read them all. But there’s a common theme in them- the word NOT. What not to wear to this, how to not wear short shorts if your size is double digits, makeup colors that don’t suit you……. the list goes on and on. An endless stream of telling other’s what they can’t do and passing it off as good fashion advice. There are not many things I can say for certain, but I can 100% promise this: I will NEVER NEVER NEVER write a blog post saying what not to wear. Whether it’s clothes, makeup, shoes, nail polish, jewelry, whatever- I will not do it. I absolutely refuse to be a part of the constant snarking, tearing down, criticizing, and cruelty that happens in the name of “good fashion.” Don’t get me wrong- there are lots of things I don’t like and I don’t choose to wear and that I don’t feel like I look attractive wearing. But is not my place (or anyone’s) to tell someone else what they cannot wear.
I put this video in here because this song and video mean a lot to me. I’ve always sort of identified with Pink- that girl growing up with a lot of pain and a lot of demons. Her songs always strike a chord with me, and this one is no exception. Full disclosure: The girl in this video was me. As a 19 year sufferer of chronic depression and the survivor of assault, the only way I could deal with my pain was cutting. People hurt me, ridiculed me and made me feel less than; I took it out on myself. It took me a long time to heal my heart, and I will live with the physical scars for the rest of my life. The words that people say, the remarks that are meant to belittle someone (yes, even if you start with “no offense”)- those things hurt. And they stick in your mind and they override all the positive things you hear. I will not be a part of it, and I implore you- help me to spread this message. Let’s all remember that everyone has feelings. Let’s not spend so much time snarking on someone else’s outfits and rolling our eyes and saying to ourselves “Wow, she really shouldn’t be wearing that.” Instead let’s focus on the beauty and the goodness. And let’s show that to each other.